Whe we read 1 Timothy 6:3-5 we see a person who loves to argue. The description is very much like cable news, despite which political viewpoint you may hold. In pursuing God some mistake being right as the win. In a real sense truth does not need a defender as truth will come out and win in the end.
Be a peacemaker
Reconciliation is a key aspect of the Gospel. Be a person who brings grace, mercy, and love to a situation. You can be right, but if it destroys a relationship you may be very well in the wrong. Love is not in opposition to truth nor truth against love. Both can be true. We see that in Jesus. Jesus spoke truth and was loving. Messed up people loved being around him. And he pointed out their sin. Jesus fought to have a relationship with people far from God.
We love to win
Let's be honest, we love to win fights. I'd venture to say that even those who don't like quarrels still love to be right. Paul warns us of the wake fighting to be right may brings. Look behind you, are you building people up or tearing them down? Again, being a peacemaker does not mean sacrificing truth. Being a peacemaking does mean we fight or the relationship as strongly as we fight for the truth.
Think journey not destination
While this may be over simplifying it, I define discipleship as helping a person take the next step to being more like Jesus. The win for me is not getting a person from A to Z, but getting them from J to K. or M to N. The space between who a person is to being completely like Jesus is VERY messy. This involves much patience, endurance, long suffering, and other things that look a lot like 1 Corinthians 13 love.
Be a difference maker
History is made by those who show up. Be a person who is present. Be a person who is there. Enjoy the messiness of discipleship and the thrill of helping people take that next step. We can fight to be right and make a point, but that is a losing battle. But being a peacemaker? That carries a wake of godliness that cannot be matched by anyone. Relationships are the glue of truth.